It's always nice to meet new people and learn about new things going around. But what about the one you talk to everyday, your best friend, or significant other. Last week, I got a complaint from my girlfriend when we were video chatting on Skype. She was talking about a topic I don't really care and I start to browsing other website. After about 2or 3minute she noticed it and said: I'm sorry that you are busy, let's talk later. Then she turn off the video. I know she was mad and text her, and I got her reply: If you don't want to listen, then Don't.
I realize the problem is about my not paying attention. On the next day, she call me on skype again. I turned off all the web page and focused on the conversation. The experience is quiet different, it wasn't the boring girl talks anymore. She talked about her problems in school, and I didn't gave any solutions. All I did was listen and shows I care. The conversation was smooth and then we had some fun.
The lesson I learned is that, listening was not hard if one is welling to. And it can be a great bonding experience. The part I need to improve on is to use language to comfort people. I hope I would get better with it.
